“I started going to an anxiety support group last year. It was really worth the effort.”


Mental health issues are both universal and individual. Anyone can experience them – in varying degrees – yet for each of us, they are personal and unique. For example: statistically, women experience higher rates of anxiety and depression than men. Men, on the other hand, are less likely to see their reactions as depression, and are more likely to use alcohol to try to deal with it. Men are also less likely to reach out for help when they need it.

Men can have many roles and responsibilities: caring for their home and family, earning a living, building a career, being a good friend, and contributing to their community. These things can be rewarding, but they can also bring stress. New and expectant dads may face extra challenges as they come to terms with new responsibilities and fitting more into their days.

Men can be reluctant to seek help when they feel overwhelmed. As a result, they may live with untreated and often undiagnosed mental health conditions that impact the quality of their life.

When it comes to your own mental health, doing what you can to maintain your wellbeing is key. Finding the time to do regular physical activity, keeping up your social life, and making healthy lifestyle choices are a few examples. If you are feeling burdened, there's lots you can do to help yourself through a rough patch. There are also times when talking about your troubles with someone else can be the extra bit of help you need.

Improving your mental health and wellbeing

If you are going through stressful times, here are some things that could help.

Make a plan of action. Start by thinking about the things that are happening in your life - both the positives and the negatives. When you’ve looked at the positives, try to identify the problems and consider how you would like them fixed. Be prepared to try a few things - but it’s better to be working at a problem than letting it get the better of you.

If you’re having trouble working something out, talk to someone about it - like a friend, a partner, or a family member. It will help you to see things more clearly and you might get some ideas of what to do next. Stressful times can be emotional, so keep an eye on how you’re interacting with the other people in your life.

Don’t waste time if you’re out of ideas - professional help is always available. Use the telephone or go online to connect with any of the services listed below, and let them help you get things sorted.

Helping a man through stressful times

Asking a man if they are ‘okay’ may not always start a valuable conversation – but that’s no reason not to do it. They may be happy and relieved to talk. If not, you may need to do the talking. Explain your observations and concerns without being judgemental – and let them know you are there to help. It can be useful to talk about a specific event, rather than things in general. Acknowledge the challenges they face and draw their attention to their strengths and achievements. You might offer some practical help if they want it.

Sharing your concerns with someone else they trust, like a good friend, might also be worthwhile. It can be reassuring for you to get another perspective, and the other person may be in a better position to start a productive conversation.

In helping a man with a mental health condition, it is important to look after yourself as well. You can find more information about that on our Support for carers page.

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Page last updated 11th July 2019