“My friends and my mum are my main support people.”


The relationship we have with our parents is unique. Our parents don't just pass on their genes to us, they pass down family and cultural values.

Relationships with parents can be complex. Most parents try to do their best for you however this does not always come through. Parents are human beings. Some of us may have parents who are together for a long time, or are divorced, or parents who have passed away. We are all different in the ways we relate to our parents. A positive connection with our parents may help our support mental health and emotional wellbeing — by helping us to feel valued, cared for, supported and guided in life.

However, as you become older and your personality develops, the way you identify with your parent or parents may change.

Whether we are connecting well with our parents or not, there are many factors that can affect our relationship with them. It is a complex relationship that can have a huge impact on our wellbeing, and it comes with its own unique challenges.

Support for parents

When you have a parent with a mental health condition, family relationships may be more stressful, and even feel like there's a role reversal going on.

You may be caring for your parent(s) and managing the house, either on your own or with your sibling(s). You might have to take on additional chores like cooking, shopping and housework, or even administering medication. You may be missing out on some of your own development, whether it's social time with friends, school activities, space for yourself, or emotional support.

Practising self-care helps you and your parent(s). Eating well, sleeping well, exercising, and minimising alcohol and drugs are great ways to keep yourself healthy in body and mind. Self-care also includes relaxing and doing activities you enjoy—like catching up with friends, playing sport, listening to music, or walking your dog.

If your parent is unable to be there for you when they are mentally unwell, reaching out for support may help to handle difficult emotions and situations. Extra support for you and other family members can be found via counselling, support services, carer organisations and help from the community.

If you want to reach out for help for yourself or your parents but aren't sure where to start, we have pages on support for carers and how to support someone.

We also have resources below to help you get started.

“It's easy to burn out. Caring for a family member is not like working from 9-5. It goes on day and night, it’s non-stop. That's why self-care is so important.”

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Page last updated 11th July 2019